5 ways to make social media more positive.

Hi, friend. How are you holding up? I’m grateful you took a break from doom scrolling to be a part of the solution instead of the problem. Social media is an awful lot like a middle school dance, and I’m about to tell you exactly how to get jiggy wit it.

Was that too millennial? Welp, it takes one to know one.

Let’s get started by talking about the middle school dance analogy. Picture this. You are back in the muggy gymnasium wearing your low rise jeans, polo shirt layered with a tank top on top, and you’re probably wearing pucca shells. Don’t ask me why, it was just the way it was.

The people on the dance floor are POPULAR. They are living their best lives and dancing as if no one is watching…except EVERYONE is, in fact, watching.

Around them are the next group that will throw a little wiggle around every once and a while, but they’ll get up close and personal with a select few during those slow dances. Fast dances apparently make them uncomfortable. Maybe they don’t know what to do with their arms?

Out side of that ring, you have the wall flowers. Their parents wanted a night out and they forced them into the vehicle against their will and dropped them off promptly at the start of the dance. They had enough money for their ticket in and a popcorn and a soda. They are using this as entertainment. They may talk amongst themselves, but never with those doing the dancing.

Social media is a lot like that. The online personalities, influencers and creators if you will, are the ones in the center of the circle doing the sprinkler and twerking their lives away. They don’t care about what anyone says because they are feeling JOY. Ain’t nobody going to bring them down.

The outer ring are the folks that rarely create but they will engage from time to time. They may like, comment, or even share if they are feeling spry, but they’re there. These folks may find that their feed isn’t so negative because they engage often enough to train the algorithm to know and serve up what they like. Sometimes, however, these folks can fall to the dark side and become a troll. Bless their hearts…and block those weirdos.

Lastly the wall flowers…these folks in the social media world are often kindly referred to as the “creepers.” They aren’t inherently bad, but they won’t like, comment, share, or create even if their lives depended on it. In fact, these are probably the folks that swear they hate facebook but they still do the stinker tinker each time they hit the restroom and doom scroll before bed. These folks will often be heard complaining about social media being awful, and much of this is their own doing…because the algorithm is stumped and quite literally throwing them anything and everything in hopes they might like something so it can finally figure them out.

All jokes aside, I’m here to help you regardless of which space you fall into.

So, how do we get a handle on this? How do we take up space on social media in such a positive way that it FEELS good to be on social media again?

We are going to take a few dance moves right out of the inner circle itself.

Here are 5 tips to having an engaging and POSITIVE Social Media Page

1. Live a full life and unapologetically share about it. Social media is often full of comparison and the icks that go along with it, but I’m telling you that joy is contagious, and joy can cost $0. When you dive into organizing your closet, share about it. When you impulsively dive into the sour dough trend, post about it. Share your daily exercise routine and you might inspire someone. Share your life hacks and things that provide you peace of mind. When you create positive content, you are training the algorithm just as much as when you engage with it. Also, you are now a part of the solution rather than the problem.
2. Romanticize your life. For real. It is not vain or cringey to look around at your life and think, “I like that.” That is gratitude and peace. See it. Recognize it. Name it. When you do that (and you intentionally share about it) not only will you start to see those glimmers in your day more often, but you will inspire others to see those glimmers in their lives as well. Butterfly effect in action.
3. Create more than you consume and engage more than you scroll. If you want folks to socialize positively with your page, you need to engage with theirs. If something stops your scroll, respond accordingly.
4. Get vulnerable when you feel safe to do so. With your privacy settings to your preferences, share about your scars (not your open wounds), and help inspire others who may be in a season similar. Not only does this provide a connection point on social media, but it is also likely going to be a healing experience for you. When we turn the lights on, the shadows disappear. Also, if you want social media to be positive, remember that in order to see that we have to see the opposite. Life isn’t always kittens and rainbows, and that is okay. Speak your truth and take up the space you need.
5. Lastly, this is for the folks that use social media for business. If you are hoping to bolster your social media presence and build positive relationships in this space that may transform into an income stream (high five, BTW), you need to do all of the above before you sprinkle business in. If you can crush numbers 1-4, you’ll see conversion because people buy and invest in people they know, like and trust, and baby you’ve just built a beautiful community there.

xo. –

Carly

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